Seeing Faces
Seeing a face is the first step toward establishing a sense of connectedness and community
David J. Murphy
April 2017

I began my career as an agent for a large mutual insurer. My agent number was 855. Whenever I had occasion to call the home office, the employees first asked, “What is your agent number?” No one called me by name. Years later I picked up another contract with a carrier on the opposite coast. I was assigned the exact same number and suddenly developed a twitch! Turns out, no one at the latter company ever referred to me by anything but my name.

Some of us experience a neurological phenomenon in which we see faces in random or ambiguous visual patterns.  This falls under a category known as “pareidolia.” This is me. I tend to see human faces in the whorl of grain on a wooden door, in the marbling of a granite countertop, and, of course, in electrical outlets.

The irony is, while many of us see faces where they do not actually exist, many of us fail to see faces where they do exist. We develop work habits that relegate people with real faces to the status of just names on files, email addresses or contract numbers.

Seeing a face is one step in the process of perceiving another person as human. Perceiving another being as human is one step toward establishing a sense of connectedness and community.

We have all had the feeling that we had somehow fallen into a circumstance of being processed like nameless, faceless objects, of being part of a long line of faceless inconveniences. We stand in line at airports waiting for our “zone” to be called. We order our fast food, get a receipt and are told to wait for our number to be called. “Number 127!” Sometimes when we place our order the cashier takes our name, and calls out our name when our food is ready. “Dave!” That is a little better. With the technology we have today, could these restaurants not take our picture when we place our orders, and display our images when our food is ready? Wouldn’t that be powerful?

Where Are You
Your business processes are designed to either accentuate relationship-building or to drive business in an impersonal manner. Ask yourself, “Am I seeing faces?”

If you rely on blast emails for getting out your marketing messages, you are not seeing faces.

If you have lost track of customers with whom you have had no contact for a lengthy period of time, their faces have faded in your mind.

If you transfer someone’s problem to another associate without at least giving a brief description of who the person is, you are simply passing on a faceless problem.

Practical Application
Consider these simple techniques for seeing faces:

  • Microsoft Outlook allows you to upload a photo for the person you are setting up as a contact. Do you use this?
  • Sales Force allows you to upload a photo for each contact. Do you use this?
  • Your iPhone contacts can be personalized with a photo of each person. Have you used this function?
  • LinkedIn features the faces for each contact in your network, in messaging and in your home feed. Are you seeing the faces of your customers and commenting or liking what they share, and sending messages on their work anniversaries and birthdays?
  • Are you making use of video conferencing? There is a free App for your iPhone called that enables you to conduct a video conference with as many as eight people simultaneously.
  • If you have associates who have regular contact with the customers, but have never met them in person, arrange for at least one video session so everyone can see what everyone else looks like.
  • Do you host client appreciation days? Posting a photograph of your customer for all your associates to see helps them remember that your customer is a real human being. It will also prepare them to recognize your best customers should they actually show up in your offices.
  • You can capture a photo on your phone of anyone you are talking to via FaceTime. You can send that photo with the follow-up notes from your FaceTime meeting, thereby reinforcing to your customers that you see them as people.
  • Taking a photo of yourself with your customer creates multiple opportunities. First, you can share it on Social Media. I often tweet photos of me standing with my key customers. That shows the customer you value the relationship enough to want to celebrate it publically. In addition, you can create a card to send to your customer using Microsoft Publisher or a similar tool, to send on the anniversary of your business relationship.

As an agent, I created a file folder for every new client. On the inside front cover I stapled a photograph of the client and the client’s family with their dates of birth, wedding anniversaries, job titles or grades in school. A year could go by and I could pick up the folder, be reminded of who the client was and be instantly prepared to ask some simple questions that indicated I remembered who they were.

Connectedness and Community
In the financial services business, we are just as prone as any other industry to focus merely on process and transactional efficiency. However, we are just as capable of remembering to make this our focus: people serving people

I enjoy staying at Ritz-Carlton properties. Their employee motto is “We are Ladies and Gentlemen serving Ladies and Gentlemen.” In my experience, Ritz-Carlton employees remember my face from the day before, from last night’s reception and dinner. They really see me as a human being. I have experienced a sense of community with people serving tables that is on par with the connectedness I have with the other people at the table.

In our competitive environment, wind-swept by regulation, low interest rates, aging demographics and technological upheaval, we stand or fall depending on the strength of our customer relationships. Those relationships are based on connectedness and community. These, in turn, rely on frequent contact, on genuine interest and shared commitments. It all starts, simply enough, with seeing faces.

The opinions and ideas expressed by the author are his own and not necessarily those of North American Company for Life and Health Insurance or its affiliates. North American Company does not endorse or promote these opinions and ideas nor does the company or agents give tax advice.

Author's Bio
David J. Murphy
CLU, ChFC, FLMI, is senior vice president, National Accounts, for North American Company for Life And Health Insurance. In the last 36 years Murphy has sold insurance, worked in marketing, advanced sales, product development, career-agency development, illustration design and distribution, agency management, agent-recruiting and MGA-recruiting. In 2007, Murphy joined North American as sales vice president responsible for a region. He built life insurance sales in the region through the implementation of the Partner Program with MGAs. He currently manages North American’s National Account relationships. In this role he has the opportunity to make presentations to both MGAs and producers and to influence sales results within each national account. Murphy’s personal philosophy is to be in business on purpose. Murphy can be reached via telephone at 800-800-3656, Ext. 87612, or 312-648-7612. Email:

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